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  1. John227

    John227 Porn Star

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    I saw an article in Time about women and porn. The author claims it is changing women's sexuality, most often for the worse. A psychologist says the following:

    “Porn has terrible effects on what young women believe they are supposed to look like, particularly during sex,” said Leslie Bell, a psychotherapist and author of Hard to Get.

    A female student was quoted saying:

    “I’ll be hooking up with some guy who’s really hot,” confided a high school senior in Northern California, “then things get heavier and all of a sudden my mind shifts and I’m not a real person: it’s like, This is me performing. This is me acting … And I don’t even know who it is I’m playing, who that ‘she’ actually is. It’s some fantasy girl, I guess, maybe the girl from porn.”

    Have any women here felt this way? I am assuming almost all the women on XNXX watch porn regularly. It seems to me that women will feel this way if they do not have a strong sense of themselves, of their identity as women. And/or they are not in healthy relationships with stable, respectful men (or women). Is porn having a negative effect on women? (More than the fashion or modeling industries?)
     
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  2. Mature69

    Mature69 Sex Lover

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    Porn has opened my eyes to all the different sexual things that are out there. Makes me want to try them all. I think as you get older you are more receptive to experimenting with your sexuality. No negativity here!
     
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      Couldn't agree with you more. Since my husband and I have been watching our sex life is so much better
       
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  3. Hush

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    Yeah....No.

    Women nor men are such mindless beings that from seeing someone else they suddenly feel that they are inadequate and need to be like that other individual(s). What they do encounter however are other people that discount them because they are not like this person or that be it in looks or actions, and so by being treated as "less than" then question if they are lacking in some way and may try to mimic that to try and be accepted or look impressive.

    In kind, just like we see here that there are so many inexperienced or less sexually successful men who see porn and suddenly think "that is how it is done" (not knowing any better) or "ah so that is why I have problems with girls" respectively, there are those women that via watching porn make the same incorrect assumptions being sexually ignorant. So in that we all want to be good lovers, they try it....and here is the sad kicker. The guy/gal may try something, their equally inexperienced counter has seen the same BS too so assumes that is how it is, so in short order you have two bumbling idiots who keep doing all of the wrong things in that their "guess" is reinforced by their counters actions.

    In "real life" before porn became so accessible, folks learned via trial and error which if they cared at all made them better lovers, and if they didn't care caused them to remain the fumbling novices they were as their peers passed them by....So, sexual knowledge and growth took on a natural evolution that honed those skills and expectations in realistic directions. Directions that made sex better and better each round.

    In contrast, when you have folks continually trying the ridiculous porn antics we see, not only do they personally feel inadequate, they also find sex to be not pleasurable. So I suspect more and more you'll find folks becoming more "a-sexual" in their relations with others, and devoting more and more time to "virtual" sexual venues in that it is what they assume is right, aren't judged for their lack of sexual ridiculousness, and find that "alone" it is pleasurable and not painful or uncomfortable.

    As to the gal's statement in the OP's post, frankly that is just dramatic BS. Young people like to over dramatize everything, as everything seems like the biggest thing in the world lacking experience.....So her multiple personality detached sexbot description is simply her way of trying to sound special and like some long suffering deep thinker.....You can expect that gal to eventually over-dramatize it to the point that she becomes "a-sexual" as I mention above.....Naturally because she was brainwashed by porn.

    Porn is not changing them....It might open up your mind to things and expose you to new acts that you might not have thought about, yet what changes folks is how they are received by others. We all want to be accepted, so if doing something the right way is viewed by their partner as wrong or lacking, then they will try what their partner has wrongly assumed is right.

    ......and there is a WHOLE lot of just plain wrong and stupid in porn. Remember, in porn they're trying to one-up the last film, and try to make the same old blowjob somehow seem special and different....and different is not always better.

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  4. baman42

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    I'm not saying that it's you since you're going off by the Time article but why does it have to do with just women? I feel that can occur with both genders, espically with teenagers in high school just like that female high schooler from the article. My opinion is that the more you watch porn at that age, the more you would think that's how regular people have sex. Those people that may think that are people who are still virgins and about to lose their virginity. Just as girls, guys would feel the pressure on their shoulders on not messing up their first time. So going back and thinking about the times that they have watched other people have sex does sound logical because in that situation, you'll then have the mindset of, "Oh, if that's how they have sex and if the both of them enjoy it, maybe I should do that they did".
     
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  5. Bron Zeage

    Bron Zeage I am a river to my people

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    Watching porn changes everybody, but no more than the latest series of Super Hero movies. I doubt many people are going to tie on a cape and try to fly.
     
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  6. alla Adagio

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    I would hope it would make them more open-minded or more comfortable with their own sexuality. I can see the argument about setting a standard on how a woman views her own body however, to put blame solely on the porn industry is unfair. Sex is used to sell products that are not even sexual in nature. I think we ought to start there. Besides, there are entire genres of porn where women do not have "perfect bodies".
     
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  7. angelforyou

    angelforyou Your little bit of heaven From Paradise Banned!

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    No I watch porn and Im happy with everything I do in my sex life not going to change how I do things or how I behave just because I watch porn.
     
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  8. thinskin

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    One Time magazine article, one psychologist and one female student hardly constitute a statistically significant sample. On top of that there are a multitude of genres in porn so I think this is a storm in a tea-cup!

    Thinskin
     
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  9. Bron Zeage

    Bron Zeage I am a river to my people

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    The thought out answer to the question is, "Yes, but so what?"

    If anyone should have problems after watching porn, it should be the men, not the women.
     
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  10. speakeasy

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    I don't watch a lot of porn. Not offended by it or anything but it just doesn't do much for me.
    If I had to chose, I'd pick the homemade variety and not the over the top, bad acting type that is produced professionally.
    I think it probably affects men more than women. Especially young me who don't have much sexual experience in their own lives.
    Shaved pubic hair, Facials, Bondage, Gang bangs, Humiliation, etc. are all trends that started in the porn industry before they became "the norm".
    About the only way that porn has changed me would be in seeing other women do something that I might be hesitant to try at first.
    The more women there are in control of porn, the more likely it will be something I can relate to.

    Adult shops that cater to women are a big boost towards women exploring there sexual nature too.
    Gone are the days where the only option were dirty, sleazy, poorly lit porn stores where you felt you might get molested if you weren't careful.
     
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  11. Feminist Man

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    My first thought is that the 'study' reflects old-fashioned assumptions about female sexuality, that women are 'pure' until corrupted by some sinister outside influence.

    But my second thought is a little more nuanced. I have a female friend who studied literary theory, carrying out a deconstruction of romantic literary potboilers for her MA.

    She found that the narration was usually written from the viewpoint of the female protagonist UNTIL the bedroom. Then the viewpoint suddenly shifted to the masculine first person.

    OK, it was the 90s, fair enough, and things may have since changed. But what was all that about? Was it empathy with the male point of view? Or a female wish to disaggregate from responsibility for sexual feelings? I don't know, but it does have echoes with the findings reported above.

    To add, my third thought is that as a man I actually see sex from the female point of view, and when I watch porn it is focused on what the woman is feeling - or pretending to feel.

    So perhaps this isn't so unusual or sinister, sex is all about sharing and giving pleasure as much as receiving it, that's just the way we are built.
     
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  12. Feminist Man

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    PS And, like pulling pop star faces in the
    mirror, porn star faces pass as young women learn to about sex and what they feel for real.
     
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  13. pussy in boots

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    Porn hasn't changed me. I am still the perverted sex goddess I've always been.:kiss1:
     
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      Mmmm; and by chance would you let me worship you "sex goddess" :p
       
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  14. GemmaSwinger101

    GemmaSwinger101 Porn Star Banned!

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    I found porn to be a real education. The hidden world.
     
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  15. Jessie Blast

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    I agree with Gemma- thru porn I saw things that I wanted to try and realized things that I NEVER wanted to try. It opened me up to new ideas about sex and gave me new ways to find pleasure.
     
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  16. geileklodders

    geileklodders Proud cum player

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    Without porn my wife would never have been inspired for the threesomes and double penetration we did. DP videos were her favorite, and from that fascination we decided to get ourselves a fuck buddy.
     
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  17. crazy2ff

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    make her ready to try more daring things, which one time considered as taboo. i encourage every girl to watch porn movies and discover the beauty of being a bitch!!
     
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  18. John227

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    I thought about this point, how watching porn affects men. I don't think watching porn has affected me very much, if at all. The reason is that I don't randomly watch porn. I only watch the porn that I enjoy watching. What makes me enjoy watching porn is having already thought about and fantasized about the sex acts and the partners that excite me. The pron only makes concrete what was already in my mind. It is more the situation that I am affecting porn (the porn industry) through what I choose to watch than porn affecting me by what I choose to watch. I can't see why that isn't also true for a woman.
     
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  19. generationY

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    The social pressure - the thought of "what if someone finds out I into this, or I like that kind of porn..." had done a lot more damage than watching porn ever could.
     
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  20. vincenzz

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    (for what it's worth)

    I eased my wife into porn early in our marriage, started with softcore and gradually onto hardcore.
    She took to it well, wasn't sure how'd she'd react (esp when we have a mutual female friend who thinks it's gross.) I'd say it's makes our sex life better, gives us ideas and we esp like the amateurs.
     
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